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Self Abuse

Published by A.Struggler under on Thursday, April 30, 2009


Got your attention? ;) I just wanted to share something I heard the other night. I was in a meeting where this one guy shared his struggle with low self-worth. I really connected with what he said. This is something that I've really struggled with. He said some things that gave me a lot of Insight. He told us that he beats himself up a lot emotionally. Whether it be calling himself names, or just selling himself short on everything he does, he beats himself up because he believes that he actually deserves it! He shared an experience that he had this week where he pictured in his mind what he was doing to himself. He said:

"I pictured myself lying on the ground; bruised and bleeding. Then I could see that it was me that beat myself up...but I continued to beat myself up! It felt right and that I deserved it. Then all of a sudden the Savior took my place on the ground. Would I continue to beat this person when it meant that I was beating the Savior?"

When he shared this, it really hit me hard. How could I possibly do that to the Savior, but feel perfectly fine doing it to myself? I do it all the time! I beat myself up a lot, I discount and discredit things about myself just about everyday! My friend calls it "crap thinking". I do it A LOT! Why do I do this to myself all the time? Why do so many of us do this to ourselves? We don't deserve to treat ourselves like this! Not a single one of us deserves that kind of treatment. Why are we ok with selling ourselves short? I know it's not right and I know that Heavenly Father doesn't feel that way about me, or you, or anyone! He loves us. He really does!

I know that this is all easier said than done. I'm trying to work on this "crap thinking" stuff. If you deal with this too, then please stop abusing yourself. You don't deserve it. God wouldn't do that to you, so why are you doing it to yourself? Try to see yourself the way that God sees you. I'm working on it, I hope you will too.

4 comments:

Scott said... @ May 1, 2009 7:32 AM

Satan gets a lot more mileage out of inserting an "I'm no good" thought into your head than he does a "maybe I should sin" one.

"I'm no good" almost always translates into "why bother trying?", and if we're no longer trying to do right, Satan doesn't need to try all that hard to get us to do wrong anymore.

The better we feel about ourselves, the harder Satan has to work to get us to slip up--and he has to work just as hard the second time, and the third time, and every time, as long as we always remember that we're not a bad person doing what comes naturally to us, but rather a good person--a Child of God--making an occasional mistake as we learn and grow.

Bravone said... @ May 1, 2009 5:09 PM

Great post. I know I have been a master at putting myself down. Over the years, I have learned to cut myself some slack a bit. It hasn't been easy, but my mental health is much better. Thanks for the good reminder.

Over the Rainbow said... @ May 1, 2009 5:39 PM

I understand how you feel. I'm beginning to think that I'm an expert at beating myself up. I used to think that if I wasn't physically cutting myself, I was loving myself. Apparently there are many types of self abuse and I'm discovering that all of them are much easier than self love. Sucks, huh?

I'm glad you gained such insight from this person's vision and I hope self love comes more easily for you as you see the Savior in your place.

Cadence said... @ May 3, 2009 4:08 PM

so I linked to this post in a post of my own. I hope thats chill... thanks for the thought though I'm not sure it is the answer for me but it made me think...

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